Dore impamvu 8 ziza ku isonga zituma abakobwa bihutira gushaka abagabo imburagihe

Abakobwa benshi muri ikigihe usanga bihutira gushaka,ariko wareba neza ugasanga batatekereje kubyo bagiye kwinjiramo,ndetse ugasanga abenshi biringangiza impamvu yanyayo yagakwiye kugenderwaho kugirango umuntu asheke umufasha.

Kwinjira mu byo basa nk’aho batazi kandi batanagishije inama abakuru ku ruhande rw’abakobwa ni byo ahanini bitera iki kibazo.

 kubaka urugo ni iby’abantu bamaze gukura, atari mu myaka gusa ahubwo no mu ntekerezo. Kubaka urugo ugashaka umugabo ni ikintu cyiza cyane buri wese yakwifuza ariko iyo bihubukiwe bishobora kugutera igikomere kirenze uko wabyiyumvisha.

Dore impamvu 8 zituma abakobwa bihutira gushaka abagabo rimwe na rimwe imburagihe nk’uko byatangajwe n’urubuga Elcrema rutanga inama ku rukundo:

1.Gusiganwa n’imyaka

Iyo umukobwa ageze mu myaka 22, akenshi ahita atangira gutekereza gukora ubukwe agashaka umugabo cyane ko n’imyaka y’ubukure aba ayifite kandi n’amategeko abimwemerera. Abakobwa benshi bishyiramo ko nibura bagomba kurongorwa bafite imyaka nibura 25.

Iyo irenze, batangira kugira ubwoba ko bagiye kugumirwa. Iyo umukobwa atangiye gukorera ku bwoba bw’imyaka, ni hahandi usanga ahisemo nabi uwo bazarushinga cyangwa agahubuka mu buryo buziguye cyangwa butaziguye.

2.Gukora ubukwe

Abasore benshi ntibaha cyane agaciro gukora ubukwe (Marriage). Siko bimeze ku bakobwa. Gukora ubukwe ni cyo kintu umukobwa aba yumva cy’ingenzi mu buzima bwe. Uzarebe umukobwa watashye ubukwe bwa mugenzi we, umwegere umubaze uko yumva amerewe. Azagusubiza ko na we yumva ashaka kurongorwa. Imbaraga nke z’abagore ni uko bagira amarangamutima cyane. Bahumwa amaso n’ibirori bakibagirwa ko ubukwe nyabwo butangira bukeye bwaho.

Kwambara ikanzu yera kuri bo ni cyo gisumba ibindi mu buzima. Ese kwihutira gukora ubukwe, ntimumarane kabiri byaba bimaze iki?

3.Igitutu cy’umuryango

Abagore benshi bakunda gushyira igitutu ku bakobwa babo. Ni mu gihe, aho abagore bava bakagera bagira imico ijya gusa. Ugasanga umugore arahoza umwana we ku nkeke ngo nagire arongorwe akeneye guterura umwuzukuru we. Ntiyibuke ko isi igenda ihinduka, ingo z’ubu zisigaye zihura n’ibigeragezo byinshi ugereranyije no ha mbere.

Ni bangahe uzi bubakiye ku gitutu cy’ababyeyi, umuryango cyangwa rubanda, bahisemo neza abagabo, bakaba babanye neza? Gushaka umugabo umukobwa abitewe n’igitutu cy’abantu, byanze bikunze akora amakosa, bikazamuviramo gusenya cyangwa kubaho nabi mu rugo rwe.

4.Na kanaka tungana yararongowe

Kuba mugenzi we bangana cyangwa aruta imyaka yarashatse umugabo, umukobwa ahita yumva na we byanze bikunze agomba kurongorwa. Umukobwa ubonye mugenzi we arongowe ,we agasigara , abibonamo igisebo kukuba na we ubwe atararongorwa. Gushaka kugira uko undi agize, bituma yinjira no bintu atazi iyo biva n’iyo bigana. Amahirwe yundi siyo yawe kandi baca umugani mu kinyarwanda ngo ‘uwitonze akama ishashi’.

5.Umugabo ‘ukize

Uzakore iperereza ryawe kugiti cyawe , ubaze abakobwa muziranye, umugabo baba bifuza kurongorwa na we uko yaba ameze. Ntuzatungurwe no kumva benshi bagusubije igisubizo cyenda gusa. “Ndashaka kurogorwa n’umugabo ukize”. Iyo rero umukobwa ahuye n’umusore ukize (ufite uko yifashije) akamusaba kubana, ni amata aba abyaye amavuta. Akiyibagiza ko ubukire ataribwo buzana umunezero mu rugo. Niba atari byo, uzambarire imiryango ikize cyane uzi ibanye mu mudendezo.

6.Kugira abana hakiri kare

Buri nzozi z’umukobwa ni ukubyara , agaheka. Buri mukobwa aba afite mu nzozi ze uko ubuzima bwe bupanze :Kwiga akarangiza amashuri, akabona umugabo, ubundi akabyara abana akarera. Ntibiyibagize ko hari igihe byanga, ayo mashuri ntuyarangize, wayarangiza ntubone umugabo, wenda wanamubona ntimubone urubyaro. Ibyo ntibiba mu nzozi no mu ntekerezo z’abakobwa. Gushaka kwibaruka nabyo twabishyira mu bituma abakobwa bihutira kurongorwa imburagihe.

7.Urukundo

Iyo umukobwa usa nukuze akundanye n’umusore ,aba yumva ntakindi cyakurikiraho uretse kumurongora akamugira umugore. Atitaye ku myaka n’ubukure afite, iyo amusabye ko bakwambikana impeta si aho aba amukuye. Gukundana n’umusore ntibivuga kubana. Kugira ngo umuntu umuhitemo ko muzamarana ubuzima bwose usigaje ku isi bisaba kubyitondera cyane.

8.Gupfundura agaseke

Kuba abakobwa bubu abenshi batakigira rutangira nabyo biri gutuma abakobwa bashaka abagabo igihe kitaragera. Iyo umukobwa ahaye ibanga rye umusore (Ubusugi bwe) cyangwa se baryamanye muri rusange akumva araryohewe, ahita yibeshya ko nibagera mu rugo bizaba ari umunyenga gusa, ntiyibwire ko wenda byanahinduka, ko kubaka urugo atari imibonano mpuzabitsina gusa, agahutiraho ngo arongorwe.

Byaruta kubaho uri ingaragu yishimye (Happy single)kuruta kuba umugore wazonzwe n’ibibazo. Gushinga urugo hari abo bibera paradizo yo ku isi abandi bikababera nk’umutwaro uremereye.

Umukobwa ushatse imburagihe ashobora kuzabihirwa n’urugo akicuza bitagishobotse kubera ko yinjiye mu isi atazi uko imeze, atabanje gutekereza neza ibyo agiyemo,..Kurebera ku bandi, guhitamo nabyo bishobora kuzaguta ku gasi.

Hitamo neza, wihutiraho, wigendera ku gitutu cy’umuryango,niba ushaka kuzubaka rugakomera. Baza abakuru (abo wizeye ko batakuroha)ubundi umenye icyo ukwiriye gukora igihe ufite ibitekerezo byo gushaka umugabo imburagihe. N’ubwo ntawe udakorwaho n’ibibazo ariko ibibazo byo mu ngo ,abagore nibo bigiraho ingaruka cyane ugereranyije n’abagabo.

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